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I was questioned when I first started this blog if I was acting out just having sex with as many people filling in some kind of inexplicable void. When I first started talking about my sexcapades, I didn’t think I saw it that way. At points, I might have but shrugged it off.
Today, I hooked up with some guy. Thinking, I havent messed around with a guy for a while nor have I had sex. So in hopes to fill that sexual void, Grindr on, chit chat with a boy, wam bam (we messed around) and then he left. He wasn’t that great in bed. 43 but looked 25. a FOB of the pilipino variety, which in my opinion are the worst kind. Wasn’t that big. and tacky tattoos(one being the pilipino flag symbol).
But, I don’t write here to bash on the poor guy. Moresoe to lay my thoughts out so I can potentially pick up the pieces and place them correctly.
Well for one, I know that Today’s hookup was purely for acting out. I didn’t realize it however until we were done, laying in bed, and him complimenting me/ saying things like “you’re just gonna be like another grindr guy who I will never see again” or “you’ll act like a stranger if I see you out”
And as he was laying in my arms, I was astral projecting myself outside my body watching myself lie to him. I had become of the sleezy guys that say shit just to appease people. “nah, you will see me again” “i had a great time” I might as well have just clapped my hands and demanded him to leave. I don’t think it would have been any worse. I even gave him the hug and kiss at the door and “I hope to see you again” lie too.
Just watching that fowl behavior almost made me hate myself. This hookup was more detrimental than I wanted. But at least I can admit to myself, this isn’t a healthy behavior.
I more recently went on a date with this boy and I thought the date went splendidly. As the week past, we texted, talked about sexual roles, and I would assume flirted etc etc. On Saturday, he and his group of friends were going out the same place my group and I were going. So I thought we would dance, drink and be merry and just be in the moment. He met a friend or two, we shared drinks and what not. But as the night progressed, we barely hung out with each other in the club, which is fine; but out of pocket during one of our passings, he tells me, “I think we should be friends.”
One of top worst phrases to be told.
And no, the story doesn’t end there. Without getting into the nitty gritty, he decided he wanted to get to know one of my friends that I had introduced him to that night.
My friend found him attractive, but since he was “my guy” it was just eye candy at that point. And from what I saw during that night, they chit chatted/flirted to my friend’s denial. But as a 3rd person perspective I saw otherwise and I even got a tad upset that night, but shrugged it off cause I was drunk.
And so, about 24 hours after he told me, I just want to be friends, I didn’t want to believe what I heard since I was “drunk.” So I was upfront and asked him if I remember him telling that is true. And he confirmed, that night wasn’t as big of a blur as I would have liked it to be.
A few text later, I was upfront once again and I asked him, “Why was I put in the friend category and not in the potential dating category.” I wonder this question for many reasons. How many people have wondered this after someone broke up with someone, or told, “let’s just be friends.” So I just asked him and he responded, because I was tall. Though I’m not sure if that is the legitimate reason, I have no other way of finding out.
The next morning, aka today, he continued texting me; eventually “slyly” segwaying to, “you friend works by me, is it okay if i ask him to lunch.” </3 So what I had assumed was true. And this guy is totally Homie Hopping.
But it was one date, so what’s the big deal? I think I just saw him a great potential as viable dating candidate and sorta led me on to believe that things were going fine. It’s not like i grew a whole foot within that week of not seeing him. He knew how tall I was when I first met him. So why this sudden change?
But being the good friend that I am, and as good as that friend is to me. I approved for both of them to go on lunch. I fortunately/unfortunately can see them going out. So bittersweet. But I want my friend to be happy and if I thought he was such a great guy, then he should be a great guy for my friend if anything does happen.
I just don’t want to hold a grudge against my friend for this boy. But only time could tell whether anything will happen between the two/if I will be bitter and what not.
Sorry for this jumbled post. It is kind of a jumbled situation. I can clarify if anyone needs it.
What would you guys do in my situation? Would you let your good friend go on a date with a boy that you had previously had gone on a date with and liked, but he didnt like you?
It’s funny how life works sometimes. The world is such a small place. As big as you want to think it is.
I went on a date recently. And it was a wonderful date. We clicked and the flow of conversation was effortless. Which is always a plus.
We met downtown, to figure out what we wanted to do before he had work later that night. We decided to get ice cream for a snack and do dinner/drinks later. When we got to Coldstone, we both sampled an ice cream; right off the bat, he was willing to share his sample with me and we both took half bites and switched. Which is a super plus in my book, because I’m all about sharing when I’m eating. Most guys would just say, “Nah, I’m okay.”. After selecting, we sat in the middle of downtown and shared stories and got to know each other.
Later we had dinner and complimentary drinks thanks to a friend. We got drunk though we shouldn’t have cause he worked in a few hours. Being drunk as we were, we held hands and walked down the street. <3. We eventually went to the usual spot to go dance and his dancing style reminded me of me, not knowing what we were doing yet do our own thing. On the dance floor, we got close and gave each other a kiss. Or two. Or three. And maybe a make out session on the dance floor.
Time for him to head back home which I was obliged to take him. We parked with some time to spare and cuddled in the back of my car. I felt his hardon push on me and I couldn’t help but to shove my hand down his pants to feel his uncut cock. While my hand was down there, I took my finger and slid it around his uncut dick to collect some precum; with my precummed fingers, I brought it to our mouths and made out with his precum.
We didn’t finish. We just sampled. And hug hug hug. And off to work he went.
That was an example of a great date in my book. Good flow of convo, food, drinks, some sexual activity, dancing, cuddling, kissing and holding hands. Usually, it just stops after coffee and my date end till next time.
So why did I mention what a small world this was? After I dropped him off, I went back out for some nighttime debauchery. A friend that I met up with inquired about my day which I was very much obliged to tell him about my great date. AND THEN, he asked me, “is his name____ and does he work at ____”. =O =O =O “I’ve been on several dates with him recently too! Didn’t you see my instagram?”. (which I guess I accidentally skipped).
So I didn’t know how to feel or react. I’m still feeling on the fence with the situation. I would find the someone that I clicked so well with, who has gone out with my friend 3-4 times! -_-
Idk where it will go, but I did go on a short coffee date with him today. =P and it was still pleasant. Even after discussing about the situation and what not.
The other day, I had the most wonderful night hookup. But it felt so wonderful and I left feeling with a smile on my face; which makes me wonder if it was all too good to be true. So far, I’ll say yes. Granted, its only been a 2 days, but I just want some message from him saying that he felt the same way I did.
I met him on a4a and he told me to come over and he’d massage me cause I was sore from working out. (I already explained my issue with late night/midnight hookups). When I finally get to his place, we hang out in his bed, he pops in a movie, i take off my jeans and lay in bed.
He massages me as innocently as a late night hook up can be. As he massage me, we talk about life and we get to know each other. He compliments me and kisses me in sweet spots as he massages me. Either it was the oil, the massage or the stimulating massage, but not only was my body feeling stimulated, but my mind was too.
After that, it turns into a massage bait porn.
http://themassagebait.com/
and I don’t hate it. At one point, he was circuling around the bed to grab the condom. while his raging large hardon was pointing him in the right direction ;)
He was gentle, he was rough. It was probably one of my best hookups. After all the sex, sweating and out of breathe, we just laid next to each other; just laying in the moment.
In this moment, we discuss SOO much about our lives. Who we are, where we come from, our theories in life, what we have accomplished, how we feel about hooking up, etc etc. And honestly, it was the most honest, open, conversation I ever had with a hookup. He was encouraging and thought provoking. It was unlike any other. I fell in love with every word coming out of his mouth.
AND that is why, I feel like it is too good to be true. Why should I have so many good things in my life happen within a year. At one point in the night, he told me he always jumped into relationships quickly and he is just ready to slow it down till he meets the right guy. Which is a double edge sword for me. Maybe I already filled my good life karma qouta for the year?
Wasn’t it just a hookup? I should expect so much, right?
Hookups are notorious for being at night. People skulking in the dark to meet some random stranger to get their rocks off. And at times, that is fairly true.
I personally don’t like night time hookups. Mine usually take place during the day. Though sometimes it lead to nighttime. However, on occasion, I feel adventurous an do a late night hookup.
This isn’t about my late night hookup just quite yet. But more so of why I don’t like them.
Maybe it’s just the scared paranoid gay in me, but midnight hookups scare me. Mostly because you hear horror hookup stories of the group of straight guys chatting with the gay guy to lure him to a certain location to beat the shit out of him. Super paranoid or does anyone else get that feeling?
For example, last night, I met the most amazing guy (story to follow). But because he lived in a gated town house, I had to wait for him at the gate. While I was walking to the gate, I couldn’t help but to imagine a gang of gay bashers surrounding me from all sides ready to attack. I clutched my keys like a brass knuckle, ready to run for my life and blow my rape whistle. And as I waited for him at the gate, I faced my back towards the gate not looking for the guy to come and open it; but to keep on a lookout for the gang of gay bashers ready to come at me.
I know, I sound kinda crazy. But it’s realistic. Isn’t it?
Like any ole morning, I walk downstairs to have breakfast. My dad already at the table doing his work on the laptop. I sit down to have breakfast across from him and nom away. As I start to select what to watch on TV, my dad says,
“WHAT IS THAT? *chuckle chuckle*, Is that a hickey?!”
And in my mind, I was in a semi shock. I didn’t even know/realize that guy was sucking on my neck that hard. I just confessed that it was a hickey and just said,
“woops, my bad.”
At least he knows his son still gets play. =P
Today I had a good cuddle/hookup sesh.
He was pressed for time, so it was a limited engagement. Which is how I usually like it when I meet someone for the first time. However, I actually liked the guy so I was a little sad that it ended early.
No one got off, but there was some kissing, licking and sucking(but only of nipples). It was pretty hot. We cuddled and did all that good stuff.
At one point, he was on his stomach. I kissed and licked my way down his back. My tongue glided down his back and under the waistband of his boxer briefs. He shuddered and moaned in pleasure. I took that as the sign to continue. I slid his pants and boxers of slowly, following each inch off with a kiss/lick/and or bite. His ass was smooth and bubbly. I couldn’t help but to take a few good bites at his sweet ass. When his ass was fully uncovered, I couldn’t help but to pause and admire it. Then I gave it a nice SMACK! and he moaned and I giggled. I proceeded to kiss and bite his butt slowly, tonguing my way to his hole. I rimmed him as he gave off little moans of pleasure. With each lick, his hips and butt slowly rose higher and higher till he was practically on all fours. I reached my hand around to stroke his dick as i continued to move my tongue in and out. I worked my way out of his hole, down his taint, mouthing his balls, and eventually licking down the shaft to the tip of his dick. His arms collapsed and he fell back down on the bed. He flipped over to signaled me to lay down next to him. With his head cocked back, he let out in a tired pleasured exhaustion, “that was aawwessomeee.”
We cuddled some more and what not after and our time was up. Hopefully i get to see him again.
The Monday after Hunger Games came out, I went on a movie date. (Yes, I know I hate movie dates. Yes, I did go against my better judgement. And finally, I told myself so *waves fingers*)
It was honestly a very short date. Should I even consider a date? What does a date comprise of anyways? Long story short, met him on Jack’d and he seemed interesting and cute enough. We both shared interest of seeing the movie. We planned to meet up at 9:10 - 9:20 the movie. As per usual, I was early by 5 mins and someone else was late. He texted/called apologizing for he lateness. But lateness is lateness. Strike 1. When he gets there, we greet, individually buy tickets, he buys snacks and coffee, we sit down. During/inbetween those instances, we would chat about our lives and somewhat get to know each other. ZZZzzzzzz
I enjoyed Hunger Games. The date, I did not. In addition to his uninterestingness. He put on way too much bad smelling cologne(strike 2) and he wore braces(though shallow, strike 3).
He’s out.
As most of my meetups/hookups/friendships usually start on Grindr/Jackd/A4A/etc.
1. When someone messages you —> You reply —> They never respond back.
First of all, you messaged me. Why waste my or your time if you don’t have intentions of messaging back?
2. on jack’d - You both hit interested —> Message appears —> you greet them —> No reply.
Same thing. It’s like messaging. You took time to contact someone and when it is reciprocated, none is returned.
3. When I say Hi to someone one and they don’t respond. Which I would assume they aren’t interested. I much rather them hit block if they aren’t interested. Why just leave me hanging? I can see you online/see that you are online at some point in the future. Save me the space and just hit the block.
Anyone else with social media pet-peeves? Do you have any of your own?
After an unfortunate and annoying event, I would have hoped life would have given me a break. However, that was surely not the case.
As usual, I was on Grindr, checking my surroundings. *Grindr beep* I get a message from this Latino that always says hi to me but because he didn’t tickle my fancy, I always keep the conversation light. I noticed he was only a few feet away from me and thought I might as well talk to him. I was already in a bummed mood so I felt like I needed a hook-up-pick-me-up. So quietly getting to the point, 5 mins away at a hotel I ventured.
I personally have never hooked up in hotel and always thought it was kind of sleezy because it’s like renting a room for just sex, but since he was there for business, I didn’t feel like a hooker. I get there and Mexican’t isn’t as slim as his Grindr pic, which I forgave him for. We greeted and he led me to the bedroom where the Mexican channel was on. He left to shower real quick and came back in the room with a hardon and a look of “It’s time to FUCK” in his eyes.
I was still fully clothed sitting innocently on the bed as he approached me. He shoves me down to the bed to straddle me and makeout. My clothes slowly start to peel off, and the making out continues. He tells me to suck his dick and I do so eagerly. His hand slides down my back and snaps my boxer brief elastic band and says, “I’m ready”
I get on all 4s as he prepares to penetrate me, spitting in my hole and on to his dick. I feel him about to insert me bareback and the red light in my head goes off. I’M NOT LETTING SOME MEXICAN HOOKUP AT A HOTEL BAREBACK ME. So I’m like, “ho ho ho hold up, I got condom and lube.” He was surprised that people prepare for these things. But being a bottom, I’m always prepared.
So once the condom is on, he lubes everything up again, and he just goes for it. Usually, people need some prep pumps before the whole thing is in. Luckily, it didn’t hurt as bad but I did get that pain gripping feeling. AND a couple pumps later, I swear it was like a minute, he was done. Pulled out, took off condom, went to the bathroom. AND I sit there in bewilderment, and wonder, do i get a chance to blow my load?
I knew we were on a time limit, but this 1 minute man has got to be kidding me. But I guess that was a legit hookup. I put on my clothes and left annoyed. As I got to my car, I logged onto grindr again with a message from him saying, “he had fun.” It took me all my might not to reply, go fuck off you shitty fuck. I really should have just cummed on his pillows as he went to the bathroom to discard the condom. That would have been epic.
Assessement:
None really needed. No potential. No potential to hook up again. Pick more wisely. And always bring a condom.
It may seem like I’m just slutting around, fucking to my hormonal desires; but there are times when a boy who sexed me catches my eye.
Magnum, named for obvious reasons, is one of those guys. And as you can tell by the title, this is my 3rd hangout/sex session with Magnum. Honestly, when I had first met him, he was just going to be a hook up. But as sequence goes, there is conversation prior to the sex. Through this conversation the first time, he actually turned out to be a viable candidate as to someone who actually peaks my interest. He was a driven, family oriented, culturally competent, traveler, sex enthusiast, and a magnum.
However, as the semi sad story goes. I don’t know where he stands when it comes to liking me.
The antecedent:
From first meeting to now, it has always been an off and on texting kind of thing. We talk about our days and occasionally flirting, of course. I had actually backed off because I didn’t want to go gaga for a guy that might not be interested in me, sex or otherwise. But, as luck would have it, he started messaging me and we set up our meeting.
*In usual fashion, we would meet, chat, movie/cuddle, sex, nap and then part.
The In Between:
This time however, felt a tad different.
Somewhere before the sex, during the movie, we on our sides facing each other and just staring at each other. We just stared at each other, smiling and he would glide his hand along my face, tracing whatever he wanted from my eyebrows, my lips, the midburns/beard, and my cheekbones from smiling. And then he kissed me and we went back to cuddling.
When the movie finished, we went straight to the fucking. It’s been a while and it was great. However, he came in the condom, though I much rather it in my face or mouth. And then I got my rocks off as he teased me sucking my nipple. It shot to his face and he flinched. He looked at me with cum on his cheek and smiled.
We cleaned off and I laid my head on his chest, falling asleep to his heavy breathe from the sex. We napped.
Afterwords:
After our nap, he showers and rushes to get ready. I already had known his mother would be arriving soon so I just did my thing and started to get ready. By the time we are downstairs, assuming I would just be going home, he asked me, “Do you eat sushi?”
And far from left field, we were going to dinner. Dinner was good and the conversation was decent. Maybe I was still in a haze of him actually taking me out to go eat. I was pleasantly surprised.
The Assessment:
As you can probably tell, I like the guy. I don’t know how he feels about me. Can a hookup turn into a viable relationship? I know the cards are stacked against me, but I think it can. I know I might sound crazy, but if I can see the beauty in a hookup, can’t someone else?
All I know is, I have to keep my guard up while still allowing people to come in.
…and the quest continues.
Movies on a first date is always a NO. They are probably the worst idea ever. Especially if you just met/you barely know them. When you go to the movies, that is 2 hours of nothing getting to know each other.
As you probably guessed, I just went on one of these movie dates. To my dismay, I agreed because Movie Guy seemed adamant about going. So coffee and movie date is was.
Usually, coffee dates are my date of choice. It forces the daters to talk, to say something, to actually get to know them. Depending how the date goes from there, you can chose to do more or just end it there. Even if you feel bad for having just a coffee date, REMEMBER, you probably won’t ever have to face them again.
The Meeting and Conversation:
When he walked to the car, I can tell so much about him. From his “gay walk,” his high school esque/typicl gay clothing, and his undone hair; I can tell he wasn’t my type. When he gets in, we greet each other and he had a gay twang. The odds were stacked against him. Not that these features on unattractive, just not my cup of tea. The conversation was pretty subnormal, and just basic getting to know each other talk. I ever looked passed my preconcieved determinates of how he was already not for me. But because we already agreed on a movie Coffee and movies I had to go.
The Assessment:
Besides for my dislikes of the guy, he wasn’t my cup of tea at all. Which happens. I even debated if he would be a suitable friend, but that feeling went away quickly. I’m beginning to wonder if I’m too picky or is it because I know what I want for myself. Either way, I’m glad that ended.